If they don’t want to, nobody changes. Not if you grovel to them. No, if you humiliate them. Not if you use hard to love, emotion, or reason. Only the individual’s personal realization that a change is necessary can motivate someone to act. And only one time will it occur: when they are prepared. No One Can Change Unless They Want To.
There is no denying the difficulty of change. But if you really want something bad enough, transformation is possible.
In reality, when it comes to self-improvement, you have only yourself to answer to. Nobody is flawless, and the sooner we accept that the sooner we can start to change our bad habits. When it comes to improving oneself, there are no defenses.
Only a medical condition that makes it physically impossible for you to be kinder is an acceptable justification for not trying to be kinder. If you desire to get in better shape, the only valid justification is a medical issue. That makes it physically impossible for you to do so. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t attempt. Even if a medical condition outside of your control is preventing your growth and change.
Self-Improvement Takes Time
Being a better person is challenging, but if you work hard enough and long enough, you will succeed. Self-improvement takes time to manifest.
It is not acceptable to use justifications such as a lack of resources to prevent achieving a goal. Everything else will change if you make a change within.
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Unless you want them to, your situation does not define you. If your life is not going as you had hoped. If you believe that your past is holding you back from your future. Or if you are not where you imagined you would be. Then you are letting your circumstances define who you are and who you will always be. Saying that change is impossible because of who or where you are or where you came from is simpler when you bowed your head and made that claim.
Circumstances Decide Too
However, observe how many people you can find who did not permit their circumstances to define them. The “rags to riches” narrative is so prevalent in our media that it sometimes seems ridiculous, but it exists for a reason. Nothing prevents you from making a change. And leaving your current circumstances if you are not where you want to be. Although it might take you twice as long and five times as much work, nothing is insurmountable.
In our life, there are countless variables that are beyond our control. We always have the power to choose who we are and how we treat others. Therefore these are the two things we can always control. Stop making excuses for yourself, take control of what you can. And start working on becoming the best version of yourself.
In actuality, no matter how much we might love someone, we can never change them unless and until they are willing to change. Except in cases where the other person has made the decision to change themselves, our love cannot force another person to change.
Examine Your Life
Examine your life and make the necessary changes for yourself rather than attempting to change others. Throw out the notion that you can change someone. Allow yourself to let go of the notion that you can change someone into something they are not and realize that everyone undergoes transformations at their own pace. All your efforts to “assist” someone else become a “better” person will be for naught if they are not yet ready. So quit now. Don’t anticipate. Put an end to the pressure. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
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The person you so sorely need in your life can become you; you cannot make someone else into the person you want them to be. Decide to change, then.
Understanding what aspects of your life are a result of that inertia and making a deliberate decision to do things differently are the only ways to overcome the power of inertia and bring about the changes you want in your life. Any area of your life offers you the chance to get better.
Establish The Behaviours
Perhaps you’re putting off learning to cook by getting takeaway every night for dinner. It’s possible that you’re trying to cut back on screen time because you dislike how much time you spend on your phone. You may even become so enraged that you start to spit out anger as a result of the combination of stimuli. Whatever it is, you won’t be able to move on if you don’t acknowledge that you have some form of established behavior making judgments for you automatically.
Too many of us go through life without ever pausing to consider or take stock of many of the background processes that operate continuously without our oversight or approval. Nearly every habit we all have now was first a choice, but over time they evolved into the default. Which naturally led to them. No matter how significant or insignificant, the changes we make become a part of who we are. And if you’re being completely honest with yourself. You want to follow a path of positive progress rather than auto-pilot momentum. Stay Connected.